Why You Shouldn't Quarrel In Front Of Your Kids
Disagreements and quarrels are imminent in any relationship. We could say they are a little more between partners, maybe because the relationship is between two equals, who could be different from each other, unlike in a parent-child relationship where one is much older than the other.
It is natural to lose your cool and yell at your partner, sometimes even for petty issues such as leaving the toilet unflushed. But after you have kids, you need to be careful in these matters as well, lest it may pollute the environment at home, leaving your children helpless.
How Fighting In Front Of Your Children Affects Them:
Here are a few ways in which your children can get affected if you fight in front of them:
1. Adverse Effect On Your Child’s Mental Health:
2. Guilty About Having To Take Sides:
3. A Feeling Of Being Unsafe:
4. Problems In Parent And Child Relationship:
Immediate Effects Of Parents’ Fights On Children:
Here are some of the most direct effects that your fighting can have on your children:
How To Fight In Front Of Your Children:
With stressful lifestyles and the constant demands of parenting, it is but natural that you may sometimes lose your cool and end up fighting in front of your children. While it should not be a habit, there are certain ways in which you can reduce the damage you do to your children. Here are a few things you should keep in mind when you are in a conflicting situation with your partner:
1. Do Not Jump In To A Fight:
When your partner is already worked up about something, try and avoid getting into a fight. Even if you try to discuss something at this stage, it may only result in shouting and yelling, instead of a normal talk. Let your partner cool down before you discuss the matter with him.
2. Discuss The Problem:
Instead of letting the situation take control, discuss the issues with your partner before the matter snowballs into a fight.
3. Hear Each Other’s Point Of View:
Respect each other’s point of view and try to understand what your partner has to say. You may not agree, but you can still try to listen.
4. Find A Middle Path:
If you cannot reach a clear decision, try to find a solution that will work best for both of you.
5. Seek Help:
Sometimes, when you have tried everything but nothing worked, the best way to deal with the issue is to take outside help. You may seek the help of your parents or family, or go for professional or marriage counselling.
It is necessary for you to keep your emotions under control and find the best way to discuss them with your partner.
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